The Power of Going All-In: What Happens When We Fully Commit?
What happens when we make an all-in decision and fully commit to something?
For almost a year, I’ve been traveling between Belgium and the UK, feeling the pull to move to the UK and follow my heart. Like many of us, I let my rational brain take the lead for this decision, which makes sense: it’s good to weigh the pros and cons, assess the risks, and think it through. However, in many cases, this analysis can hold us back from following our heart or our excitement—the internal compass that guides us toward a fun and fulfilling life.
Rationally, it might not make sense for me to move to the UK. In fact, if I put fear in the driver seat, it doesn’t make sense at all. Being self-employed, I don’t yet have any business there. So, do I really want to risk (yet again) going without income for an undefined period? It’s a scary leap, and fear could easily stop me in my tracks. But as long as I let that fear run the show, my true desire will not see the daylight.
When we tune into what we really want and make a bold move, something incredible seems to happen. It’s like telling the universe, “I’m ready—let’s go!” And suddenly, opportunities start falling into place.
Just a week after deciding to move, I attended a networking event and met someone interested in my story. A few days later, we had a call, and he offered to connect me with a high-end coach in the UK—exactly the kind of connection I was looking for to understand the market and explore collaborations. On top of that, he invited me to join a leadership program he’s building in the UK, seeing a potential role for me in the delivery. What are the odds?
It didn’t stop there. He also mentioned he runs retreat-style leadership programs, taking leaders into nature for a few days—one of my current professional goals!
And to top it all off, the decision forced me to let go of something that had been holding me back, both personally and professionally. The very next day, I met someone who offered exactly the insight I needed to continue progressing.
This experience reinforced a powerful truth: when we hold on to something that no longer serves us, we block new opportunities from entering our lives. The things we need, the experiences that will guide us to a more fulfilled life, are right around the corner—we just need to create space for them.
My challenge for you
Do you take the time to tune into what you truly want? Here are a few tools to help you connect with your inner guide:
Follow your excitement – It’s your internal compass.
Reflect on your values – Who are you, who do you want to become, and what truly matters to you?
Listen to your body’s signals – Your body knows what draws you in or repels you. For me, meditation has been a game-changer in tuning in to these signals (here are some free meditation resources).
We don’t need to fear making decisions. After every decision, there’s always room for another.
I love the visual from Tim Urban’s graph below that shows how, at any moment, there are infinite life paths available to us.
Ask yourself: Is the path you’re currently on giving you enough pleasure and purpose? If not, what other path is quietly (or loudly) calling you? If you can’t hear it yet, sit in silence and listen.
What can you do today to explore that path a little further? Take one small action to lean into it.
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What Are We Really Afraid Of?
It can be terrifying to take big leaps, like moving without financial stability. But the more I trust the process, the less scared I feel. Another strategy that helps is to confront fear with logic. We often imagine worst-case scenarios far more dramatic than reality.
So, ask yourself: What’s the worst that can happen? Once you understand that the worst-case scenario isn’t as bad as your mind makes it out to be, it becomes less scary. An exercise I often recommend to my coachees is to place the worst-case and best-case scenarios on a scale left and right and recognize that reality usually lies somewhere in between.
Is This the "Right" Decision?
Once you embrace the belief that there are no “right” or “wrong” decisions on your life path, you’ll always be able to say a full “yes!” to the choices that feel right. I know this move to the UK is the right one because it’s what I feel I need to do. Whatever happens next will bring learning and growth and at any point in time, I’m on the grey line in the graph above. The most important thing is not to stay stuck on a path that no longer brings joy.
By the way, I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve known I needed to change my path but didn’t. And that’s okay. Don’t take this as a story of a guy who has figured it out. He didn’t. But I hope it can inspire you. Every moment presents a choice: will I stay where I am or will I move into what feels like a higher calling or a higher energy? Trust also that you’ll make the decision when you’re ready. Maybe try to be even more curious about yourself and your desires, and tune into your feelings a little more consciously and see what happens.
If you want to know more about this topic or find a coaching hand in all of this, feel free to contact me ❤️.
With love,
Jan
